Death is what we all are scared of, although we all know that one day all of us have to go the same path. One thing I have realised that whatever life god has given us let us make it worthwhile, so when we die there are 1000 people crying after you. Yup I am coming back to Late Sri Devi ji’s demise. It has somehow touched me and my life so much and in fact somewhere I can co-relate with her daughters because my mom passed away 2 years back. It was an unexpected death, even she was 62 which is ideally not the age to die. To be honest whatever age our Mom passes away we would always feel the hollowness, the emptiness she has created in our life. No one can ever take her place.
Lately I have been reading all the articles related to Srideviji, or Jhanvi Kapoor. I came across one such thing where I was very touched where I read about Jhanvi Kapoor writing about the pain and the hollowness she feels after her mom’s death. Well it was very unfortunate and untimely for her to handle it, as it was all of sudden, unexpected. Soon after Sriji’s death people poured on with their condolence messages and showing their support for the family in the need of hour. They were reacting as if they have lost their family member.
After say around fortnight, it was Jhanvi’s 21st birthday, which she might have not thought that she had to celebrate it without the person who meant world to her. Soon people started overreacting, as if by celebrating her birthday the Kapoor’s made a big crime. You see we are staying in a hypocrite world where people have double standards. On one side they expect you to move on and be strong, and when you actually try to move ahead bearing the fact that the person whom you have lost will never be back again, they feel you never had feelings. How can you just move on within 15 days? You never felt for your mom, you are just doing show off we are the biggest sufferers, this is how the world reacts. Is it really true? Does the person who passed away really mattered to them? The answer is a big NO. She meant world to you but for the world outside she was just a person whom you knew for a time being that’s it.
I have gone through a very tough phase when my mom passed away all of a sudden. This is the time when I realised who are your true well-wishers. She was the biggest strength for me, but it was too late for me to realise. I feel the pain still, but I am not an expressive kind of a person. I cry very less that doesn’t mean I don’t remember my Mom, or never cared for her or never loved her. Caring doesn’t mean that you cry in front of the world every now and then, expressing the world what you are going through after the loss. Caring means continuing her learning even after her death, recollecting her good deeds, her lessons taught, and not to forget how good the person was.
When a Mom passes away your whole world comes trashing down, it’s very difficult to cope up with the loss. She is irreplaceable. Our Mom has not taught us to live without her, but we are not left with any options. Life moves on and so do we, but we can promise that will never let her down and make her feel proud in the heaven above. Love you maa and thanks for your unconditional love you showered on me.
– Kinjal Nirav Shah